Relationship and Virginity

Wait!wait!wait!...If your mentallity isn’t beyond 18, then yes this one is for you.

Is sex the ultimate solution to love?

NO, I mean some people say, “pyaar ko prove karna hai toh karna padega, agar tu mere saath sex karegi tabhi main maanunga ki tu mujhse pyaar karti hai.” Pyaar ko prove karna matlab kya?

Here, if a boy talks only about having sex or asking you to have sex, then it's ok...because it's all about physical needs of a human being but when it comes to having sex to prove love, then keep a distance away from your partner, he is emotionally blackmailing you.

If your partner wants to have sex to take the relationship forward, then keep these things in your mind....

1. Is that the right person?

2. How much time elapsed in relationship and how its been?

3. Does that person talk about unprotected sex?

4. And many more concerns….especially concent.

I feel that if you want to complete your physical needs with your partner than make sure to complete your mental needs as well, because you are in a relationship, it's not a one night stand ki kiya aur tata bye-bye..it's about having a long term relationship with a same person. If you are thinking about a long-term relationship then at least create some long-term emotional connection too, and not only physical connection.

Sex is not the ultimate way to prove your love, It's just an ultimate way to express your love. There stands a huge difference between both of them, understand that.

Some girls consider having sex before marriage is not good?

Ok...Conventional India considers sex as a taboo..we are taught that we should have sex only after marriage. What is the reason? Indians consider that marriage should be with a boy of your caste and if a third honor(baby) comes after marriage, it is a very good thing. But what if….the same things happen oppositely. Having relationship with other caste and third person member arrives too. Samaaj kya kahega?Log kya kahenge? chalo logon ko side main rakho...then you yourself have to think first that are you really capable enough to handle the responsibility of third member; are you mentally and financially capable enough to handle the responsibility?

Just to keep away from all these problems, your family and society without explaining anything teach you that you should have sex after marriage and perform all within your caste only. That's why most of the girls make such a mentality that if they have sex, they will do it only after marriage so that all these problems do not have to be faced. They should have an assurance which most of the boys won't be able to understood.

ok..let's talk about this too...

What if a girl is not virgin and you get to know that after your relationship?

First of all, why not being a virgin is such a big crime?

Why is it such a big deal? aur isko itna badaa taboo kyu banaya gaya hai?

Still this is India, desh of taboo... just as the source of “K A M A S U T R A” has been here, so has the source of taboo, so it is necessary to talk about it.

The question is, why should a boy or a person want the next person to be fresh or untouched?

She had sex with someone in past...what's the big deal uska past tha, uska mann tha, usne kiya baat khatam ...

The problem is, at a certain point of time you too want to have sex, but the thing is you won't get opportunity for that but she got chance and she did, though it pokes you, right?

And many minds have been spoiled by some Indians who have represented Indian culture, who stated loosing virginity before marriage is a crime.

ladkiyo ko humesha virgin hi rehna chahiye till marriage aur ladko ko...nahi wait!....ladko ke liye kuch nahi kaha gaya.

ok..so this is just my point of view that loosing virginity before marriage is not a crime and just a desire to be fulfilled by most of the budding teens. It's just that it shall be done with the right person while being safe.