Is he worth waiting for?
Is he feeling the same way I do for him?
Am I just comforting myself in the hope that this will work?
Would I be better off dating the postman instead? At Least he comes to visit me once a month!
Does my guy even exist or is it just another catfishing fraud?
Long Distance Relationships sucks, let me repeat myself, they suck. My guy lives 7 hours away and I am having a great time. No man, it just frustrates me. I can’t see him every day, I can’t get a hug when I need to have one. All I get is a Video call or a conversation through WhatsApp. But, that is just not enough. I do need his touch, his hands on me, that feeling, those arms wrapping me and making me feel safe. Those kisses on my forehead comfort me.
Isn’t this what every other person in a long-distance relationship is feeling? The questions stated above strike through every other person in a Long Distance Relationship every day, yes every single day. But, what are those things which keep them going? A lot of them can quit, very easily, a lot of them also quit. But today I am here to talk about those beautiful souls, those who stay together, those who don’t fall back on uncertainties. Well, is it easy? Obviously, no. Is it worth continuing, hell yeah!!
Nothing left to talk
We are also normal people, not every day things are going to come upon the table, so let’s have a chat on this and that. It is completely okay if you guys don’t have anything to talk about. See the positive side in it. That you guys have shared almost everything, there’s nothing left. Not having the time to talk, can’t call, can’t chat. No issues, technology is a great boon, share voice notes. Tell them what you did all day. Take out five minutes for the person you love and tell them how you feel about them. Make them feel special by your voice or words. And, if you don’t have five minutes for yourself, you don’t deserve a relationship of any kind.
Time Devotion
You are a very busy person. You stay busy all the time. But, you are a human too and you also need breaks, you must be having leisure time. Give a couple of minutes out of your leisure time to your loved one. And, let's suppose you are given only fifteen minutes, so stay there, stick to their chat, or call and don't involve yourself in something else then. Because those switching of chats, late replies, just create a sense of non-effective nature towards them, and nor are you going to satisfy the other people you are talking to or enjoy what you are watching. Even if that person is there for you, giving you his time then they are also not going to like you leaving like this in between. So if you are there for just five minutes, then you should not switch chats or involve yourself in something else. Ultimately this shows that whether that person is even important to you, you can leave something for them for a while and have a conversation.
Dealing with Fights
Fights, issues, problems are a part of any relationship. But, these must not follow to the very next day. It must get sorted out that day itself. Why do they even occur? Problems are going to come, the major ones, when you start hiding things or telling lies to the person. There must be a crystal clear transparency between both people. I am not saying tell everything to him or her, but when that person asks something from you, then they must hear the truth, no hidden stuff. Because ultimately this shows how much you respect the other person. Fights can also arise due to the non-communication of your feelings. Express the other person that you need time or space, there's no harm in saying that at all. Ultimately, that is going to lead to a better relationship. Even mood swings, frustration are also there to create issues but they must not be taken to heart. If they are in love with each other they are going to stay there even after all these things, because that is love.
Pamper each other
We have to realize that pampering must go both ways. There should not be only one person who is pampering the other. Everyone needs it, not only girls have the right to this. Even guys need it too. If one of them is angry, the other one has to carney him or her, don’t just get angry too in an attitude. Well, there’s a line, get angry from the people who can carney you, not in front of those who can just leave you at sake.
Faith, Trust, and Loyalty: Are these very big things to expect?
There’s only one thing to say over here. If you are trusting the other person, trust them completely or don't trust them at all. Because if he or she is going to cheat on you, then my friend, that they will for sure do, whether you take their social media access or whatever. But, if they are in it genuinely just for the sake of you. Just to wake up on a video call with a sleepy ugly face in front of you. Then listen to me my friend, that person is going to stick with you at any cost.
Would like to end this with one of my beliefs in love. Things won’t be easy, things won’t fall according to the way you want them to be every time. But, sticking to it for that person will always give you immense pleasure. When we don't leave the hands of life, why should we leave the hands of love. ❤
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